Mean Girls... yes, they still exist.

Today I share that even when you are 40 years old, bullying still occurs, which is so sad, and pretty pathetic.


Two weeks ago I was sent some nasty messages through one of my social media accounts. It happened on a Monday, the start of the week, and that really seemed to set the tone for the day, and unfortunately, my week.


[NB I didn’t respond to the messages, and then the next day they were deleted.]


The last several years I have worked extremely hard to change my mindset, especially around what other people think, because of course, that is none of my business. This time, however, it nearly got the better of me.


For four years, two in primary school and two in high school, I was subjected to the stereotypical “Mean Girl” behaviour. I have always been a mentally strong person and got through those years by practically reading nearly every book in the library, and pretty much keeping my head down and immersing myself in my studies. Eventually I found a group of girls that stuck with me to the end of my school years.


Fast forward 23 years later, and those earlier years triggered me when I was again exposed to Mean Girl action again. This time I had me an arsenal of tools. Want to know what I do now?

• Do not react straight away.

Try not to be that psycho typing cat meme.
Think before you respond, and sleep on your response. Clarity can always been seen with a lighter heart and clearer eyes.

• Set a time to feel crap and to have the shits.

Depending on the level of Mean Girl bullshit, I set a time of 30 minutes to an hour.
I have also set an actual time.
Eg “I will reflect and wallow in self pity until 4pm. After that time, I will let the bullshit feelings go.”


Pick an empowering affirmation quote.
My favourite activity is to go through Pinterest and pick a quote that is inspiring and helps to elevate my vibration.
Writing it in your journal and create a graphic to put on your phone wallpaper for the day also helps.

• Pick some oils intuitively or use my “Albie’s Happy Blend”

For me, essential oils always make me feel better and more aligned after a negative experience.
For Stage 5 Mean Girl shit, I sit in my home studio, pick 3 - 4 oils intuitively, make up a small 5mL roller bottle, and then read up on what the oils I have picked mean emotionally. This an educational experience, you would be surprised, that your mind and body picks the ones you need at the time.
If its minor BS, the blend my darling son created, to make others feel better, I use for the day.


So if you’ve experienced Mean Girl BS, try some of the above ideas then drop me a message on my socials to vent.
Trust me. You will feel a heap better by releasing in a safe, confidential space.
I have an awesome gal in my circle who I trust with my ventilations and always feel better when she puts me back into flow. 


Hope these ideas were helpful.


Much love,
Danai xo


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